“The alcoholic will always fabricate new urgencies, which never fail to convince their partner to stay by their side.”

(Your words in the article.)

Yes!

That may be the biggest reason why a codependent (with a responsible mindset) stays in a relationship with an alcoholic.. That cocktail of excitement, negative news, drama and losses, urgency and unlikely explanations for the urgency, and the perception that one “has to remain” there to help where help is obviously needed is so potent.

People who show perseverance, faith in the future and in the future of the relationship, and who have a humane or even self-sacrificing disposition are easily manipulated by alcoholics who think only about how to get the next drink and rely on their partner to maintain a sense of normalcy..

This relationship is less rewarding than a parent-child relationship, although it resembles it a great deal; particularly when the child becomes a teen. The codependent / enabler parents the addict in the best way they know how; while the addict continues to test the limits of what they can get away with, while expecting loyalty, a home to return to, and that the mess they make will be cleaned up..