Sometimes I wonder how humanity survived so many eras with utterly different parenting styles.

There is a huge difference between yelling at someone with contempt, or yelling without any self-control whatsoever, and yelling to get children's attention.

I am not going as far as to say that it is "okay" or customary to be yelling at the young and that it is a skillful parenting technique.. (It is not a good show of maturity or of parental confidence. That is for sure.) But in the big picture of a teen's life at home, it will end up pretty irrelevant that a father or mother raised their voice here and there. (When there was respect and love in the home, of course!)

Exceptions apply - there are highly sensitive and autistic children, where a parent and caretaker should commit to overcome her/his tendency to scream, shout and yell and opt for a calm delivery.

Maybe all parents could calm down a bit, but also not beat themselves up as they navigate their journey to become a loving authority.